Have you ever asked yourself “What is my life purpose?”,
or “how do I find my purpose in life?”. I bet you have….
I have, and it has been a whole transition to finally
meet and understand my life purpose. It can be confusing
at times, specially when you really love helping people
but what you want to do does not align with what -at that
certain moment- you know. Does that make sense to you?
Let me explain: As a Medical Doctor, I LOVED taking care
of my patients, I am a nurturing person by nature BUT
by doing this I was leaving behind other areas of my life
like, my family. Specifically, my Mum.
Also, I was leaving behind my own freedom. Which to
me meant having the ability to travel and visit new places,
or just taking my mum out for dinner without worrying about
my schedules. Instead, I spent most of my time on my shifts,
day ant night, sometimes without even seeing my mum or
dedicating some time to myself. See, everything needs to be
Eventually -if you know my story- my mother passed away
and everything happened very quickly. Within 21 days.
Sometimes life hits us HARD, but sometimes WE NEED
those hits to make us get out of our own “dope cycle”,
the “rat race” – you name it-.
So I decided to do something different, I didn’t know what
but I knew I Had to…. long story short and fast forwarding
I became an Online Entrepreneur. My business aligns
to my Life Purpose which is: Helping others transform
their lives, creating a life of Total Fulfillment.
So, HOW DO YOU FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE?
It is actually very easy to find your life purpose, in fact,
it is easier than we think. But as adults we tend to look
for the complicated and intricated things that we wind
up making everything unnecessarily complex.
Yes, it is good to examine your life and see how things
are going every certain time BUT, if you spend most of
your time examining your life, then you are not living!
And… what’s the point of that??
Life is meant to be LIVED.
A Quick Guide To Finding Your Purpose in Life in 5 Minutes
This is how you can know your life purpose in the next 5 minutes:
#1 WHO YOU ARE?
Take some time and ask yourself: Who am I?
#2 WHAT DO YOU DO?
What do you LOVE to do? What is that ONE THING that
right now, when you think of it you feel empowered, motivated
and qualified to teach others.
#3 WHO DO YOU DO IT FOR?
In other words, Who are you trying to help?
What problem are you trying to solve?
#4 WHAT DO THOSE PEOPLE WANT OR NEED THAT I HAVE?
Or… What Problem are YOU solving by teaching them
the things you know?
How does it benefit THEM what you have to offer?
What is it that THEY WANT and you can help them achieve it?
#5 WHAT IS THE RESULT OF IT?
What is the result of it? How do they change or transform as
a result of what You give them/teach them/offer them?
What is the Power of goal setting?
Well, everything starts as an idea that then,
with the right amount of work, will materialize.
When we set goals, we are are designing the
future in advance, we are creating our destiny.
Your goals need to be so strong that you look forward
every morning to get out of bed and work on them.
There’s no right or wrong when setting your own goals
the only condition is that they HAVE TO inspire you,
they have to be compelling so that when things go hard
they motivate you to keep going and when you attain them
they help you grow and become a better person.
Your goals should be in alignment with your values and
are created specifically to transform your life and bring
it to the next level.
HOW TO SET COMPELLING, INSPIRING GOALS
In order to set compelling and inspiring goals, these are the
golden rules you need to follow:
- CLARITY. Your goals need to be clear, detailed
and as specific as you can make them. The detailed
they are, the better. Also, you must have a specific
plan of action for their attainment.
In other words, HAVE A CLEAR VISION & A CLEAR PLAN.
- KNOW YOUR WHY. This Step is VITAL because
You can have all of the resources you need, the books,
the information, the people, the support, everything
you need to succeed with your goals BUT if you don’t
know WHY you are doing it, if you don’t know WHY
you are moving towards your goals, then it is rare that
you are going to succeed.
So ask yourself, WHY do I want to achieve this goals?
What is the main reason I created them?
You must be absolutely clear about your why,
- KNOW YOUR HOW. This step is as important as
knowing your why. You MUST have a plan of action,
know HOW you are going to make those goals happen.
In order to know which direction you are going to take,
you must know where you are at. So have a plan of action,
a strategy, this doesn’t mean that once you develop your
plan of action it will stay like that forever, no! You need
to be flexible, and it is for sure that along the way some
things will change, so leave room for improvement.
- BELIEVE & HAVE FAITH. Once you have a clear
mental image of what your goals are, the plan of action
you are going to follow and you know why you are going
to pursue this goals, you MUST have absolute total faith
and trust that you WILL Do it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m
not saying “all you need is believe, trust & pixie dust”
but just know that YOU MUST Believe in Yourself, in Your
goals, in that no matter what happens, you will succeed!.
- THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX. I am sure that you have
probably heard about the SMART goals. A lot of people
talk about them. I like them, is a good foundation but I do
not agree with them at all. WHY? This is Why…
I don’t agree with the “Realistic” side of having Smart goals
because when you think “realistically” you are limiting
yourself and the endless possibilities in the universe.
Because when you think “real” you are basing your future
on past experiences and if you base your future based on
the past you’re simply going to get anywhere.
Just be creative when setting your goals, there are no limits.
Be BOLD and create exciting, compelling goals.
- KEEP A DAILY REVIEW JOURNAL,
Yes… keep a journal from moment zero, from
the very very beginning. Do you remember that
I previously said everything starts with an idea?
Well, a journal is going to be one of your most
powerful tools to brainstorm and write more ideas
down, your progress, what is working or not.
Start by writing your goals there, map out your
plan of action.
It doesn’t matter if it looks messy, it doesn’t matter
if you write here and there, as long as YOU
UNDERSTAND IT and you know
what is there it is fine :)!
Also, REVIEW YOUR GOALS DAILY
- BE FLEXIBLE, Be Adaptable. As Charles Darwin
said: “It’s not the strongest of the species that
survives, nor the most intelligent, it is the one that
is most adaptable to CHANGE“. Things are always
changing and a strategy what works today may not
be working tomorrow. So be flexible, and ALWAYS
leave room for improvement..
“Stay committed to your decisions but stay flexible in
your approach” (Anthony Robbins).
- BE CONSISTENT. Consistency is KEY. Nothing
was ever achieved by merely luck or overnight and with
no efforts. Every success requires an amount of effort
and almost unreasonable consistency.
It is the little steps what create the journey. It is those
millions of water drops that shape the sea.
You must also know that there are going to be moments
when things will probably seem confusing or not as great
as you want them to be. Understand that it is part of the
game and no matter what you MUST remain CONSISTENT.
This is why it is VITAL and INDISPENSABLE to know and
understand your WHY. Your WHY is what is going to fire
you up and give you the strength and motivation to continue.
Finally remember what we’ve been talking about over the
last days: Whatever you focus on CONSISTENTLY, you will
experience in your life.
Before ending this post, I would like an exercise for you,
- 1. go grab a pen and paper
- 2. Take 15 minutes to write down there all of the things
you want to achieve. If it makes it easier take 5 minutes to
write your personal goals, financial goals and business/career goals.
- Once you finish doing that, take an extra 3 minutes to add
a set time for each goal like, the ones you want to achieve
within the next 1, 2, 5, 10 or 20 years.
Remember, You are capable of achieving anything you want 🙂
See you tomorrow 🙂
Creating Lifetime Results Through Neuro-Associative Conditioning. (NAC)
Yesterday we mentioned the power of Neuro-Associations
and how they shape your decisions.
By now I am sure that the concepts of pain and pleasure and how
they are key on the way we associate things are both clear in your mind.
If not, please I encourage you to review my previous post first,
they are under the category #Unstoppable Transformation,
alternatively you can just >> click here<<
Now, I want to be clear with one thing: No matter what the
problem is, You are only going to CHANGE or create a lifetime
result ONLY if You DECIDE to do so. It is only then when your
emotions, what you feel, and your behaviour starts working in
our favour to create us the LIFETIME RESULTS we want.
So, as promised yesterday, today we are going to learn…
HOW TO USE Neuro-Associative Conditioning (NAC) step-by-step.
There are 3 fundamental key-steps in the science of Neuro-Associative
Conditioning (NAC), these are:
- Get Leverage on yourself.– This means that are at a point
where you KNOW that something MUST change, that YOU
MUST change IT and that YOU CAN change IT Right Now.
And you get to the point where you feel that not changing
would be terribly painful. and changing will give you pleasure.
- Interupts your limiting pattern of association. Every
behaviour, belief, action, decision is linked or associated to
either pain or pleasure. In this case, if it’s associated in a
way that limits instead of helping you get closer to your goals.
Do whatever it is necessary, whatever it takes to BAM!
interrupt that association… In other words, Create a
Pattern Interrupt, do something unexpected in order
to create new results.
- Condition yourself to a new empowering association.
Create a new association that empowers you.
For example: What would the consequences of taking
action meaan to you? What would be pleasure you’d gain?
What consequences would you get withing the next 3,5 years,
and howwould that change your life? How woiuld you feel
emotionally, mentally, phisycally by knowing that you
have achieved and succeeded in your goals?
Remember, repetition is KEY here and if you want to be successful,
You need to condition yourself for success each and every day,
by repetition until it is consistent, normal and part of your day to day.
Now, I know that, compared to my previous blogposts, this is
a very brief one and very straight forwards. So, if you want to
understand this better or get some examples, I suggest visiting
the previous blogposts, go through the examples I Walk you
through, and use them, modify them, adapt them to suit your
own personal needs or experience.
See you on my next post :)!
The Power of Neuro-Associations : Shaping your decisions
Hey there, welcome back , It’s great to “see you” here again :)!
Before I go onto explaining what are neuro-associations and how
they shape your decisions, I’ll refresh your mind with what we
have been covering over the last 3 days:
- How to Get to the edge and live with passion.
- The 3 pillars to living an Extraordinary Life
- The only ways that you can make a change in your life
is to use your personal power to take action.
- What stops most people from taking action is fear of pain
whether that pain is fear of failure, rejection, disappointment.
We actually spoke in detail how PAIN and pleasure are the
controlling forces of our lives.
So TODAY, we are going to talk about the neurological association
(neuro-association) and how humans (you,we,us –unless of course
you are an alien :P) create pre-programmed responses that may be
sabotaging your success
Any association of pain within your neurological system stops you
from taking on new challenges. If you associate pleasure with eating
chocolate or ice-cream then you will do it, but what do you think it
happens if you associate the feeling of being trapped with marriage????
How long do you think your marriage will last?
If you’ve always wanted to own a business and you haven’t done it
yet,is because you neuro-associate too much pain to it. So if you
want to start a new business, you have to change those neuro-associations.
For example, what would having a new business would mean to you?
What would it mena to your life? What would you get that you don’t
have now? What will you gain?
It is not about what it would mean intellectually but what would it
mean to you mentally? emotionally? what good positive feelings
would you get? How great would you feel when you talk about it?
There has to be PLEASURE in starting a business and PAIN in not doing so.
YOUR KEY NEURO-ASSOCIATIONS
What are those key neuro-associations?
How can we change the conditioned response to our
environment, so we can feel differently about eating
food when you are stressed? Or to stop thinking that
exercise is linked with pain. And they are only going
to change once you change the conditioning feelings
about it. These pre-programmed links direct your life!
They direct your motivation, what you do and what you don’t do.
Thinking positive is not enough, you have to change
those neuro-associations and every action you take
–whatever it is, as tiny as it may seem– has a
consequence and effect in your life.
For every action, there is a reaction.
For every direction you head on, there is a destiny.
There are neurological links that are associated with your
past that are controlling your present. So how do we look
back and find what these links are and how do we reprogram them?
Well, this is what you can do:
- To create a new neuro-association all you have to do is
link a new emotion with that current neurological
association that you do not like (exercise, writing, dieting etc)
- All you have to do is get yourself to feel a positive, happy,
once you are in that state link it to something you thought
it was painful. Link it to it over and over again, repeat it .
By repeating it you will get it.
For example. I do not enjoy routines. I am just not a person of
routines. Why? Because most of my life Ive always been following
a routine, I always wanted it all perfect, and for that I neede to learn
how to make things perfect, my way. I was an avid learner, so
every summer my mom would subscribe me to advanced classes for
the year I was going to take. Then I loved Sports, so right after my
monday – saturday lessons, I’d go to the club, do some gymnastics,
train for my swimming competitions and do some tae-kwon do.
I was always busy, and mi life at my short 9 years old was very very
well structured. I had my own routine.
I think that is another reason why I loved being a doctor, because
everything had to be perfect for my patients, and I was ALWAYS BUSY,
to a point that I literally had no life. I replace my fun times in the pool,
at the gym, by strangely enjoying the stress of the ER and loving every
BUT THEN, at my 18’s I started travelling the world, and my perception
totally changed. All of a sudden, I noticed that I did not neede to have
an extremely structured routine. I felt like a bird out od a cage whitout
even knowing I was living on a cage. It was by this time that I was on my
second year of Med School. And for the following years, there was no summer
or holiday that I wouldn’t grab my backpack and strart travelling,
searching for adventures, discovering new places and meeting new
ALL of a Sudden returning back to Lima (Peru) turned into a pain
because I wanted to keep travelling. My love for medicine was there,
but …. I wanted to keep traveling!
Do you see the pattern there? I associated “routine” to be trapped in a room.
I am 27 now, and after leaving my career as a Medical Doctor,
my life totally changed. All of that structure I was used to was gone,
I didn’t need to wake up and leave home before the sunrise, etc etc….
and to be honest, at first, it was nice and I enjoyed it but,
it took me a while to get used to it. Time passed, I came across
developing and owning my own online business, and
I knew that I had to get back into action to get things DONE.
But somehow I would find ways to procrastinate, sometimes
I wouldn’t even notice it, and when I did I would just tell to myself
that I am not a person of routines anymore because they made me
But then, I also knew that all of the highly successful business
professionals have routines, healthy successful routines, or
“successful rituals”which comes down to discipline, having
the discipline to developing healthy habits.
THEN one day, I realize that yet again, I was following
a routine, a routine with a negative pattern of procrastination.
Day by day, I was causing me more pain by not taking action,
I was having a negative routine that was leading me to failure.
And I wanted to succeed.
Guess what?? That was a SHIFT. A TOTAL SHIFT.
So my opinion on routines automatically changed and I started
associating routines with success. Which in fact makes total sense
when I trained for my swimming competitions and follow my routines
I’d always win, When I attended my courses and study I would get
great great and honours. NOW I associated my new routine
to having the ability to creating the life I love, it was the shortcut
I needed to create a life of Freedom. I want success and that success
makes me feel good and routines are part of that success,
so I should feel great about carrying out some kind of a routine :).
Another example is dieting. Recently I started a diet, and one aspect
to losing weight is eating less calories and eating less calorie dense food.
I’ve always eat healthy, and I would prefer my delicious fruits and salads
rather than a piece of steak. I would different times on the day and I
had them at breakfast, midday, lunch, med-afternoon, dinner and
sometimes a bit before going to bed. So yeah, I ate like 6 times aday
and it was all fruits, veggies and heaps of water /green tea.
But when I move to New Zealand, and discovered other cultures foods.
I was just AMAZED. I have become a lover of indian food and also a
fan of rice (whereas in Peru I would probably eat it a couple of times a year)
I wasn’t used to have normal dinner like most of people normally do
and my partner would just have a huge piece of steak and eat heaps
because he’s a body builder…. Anyway, I got to a point where I could
eat as much as him. Like a whole pizza for myself only!
Then I noticed I was getting unfit, and I still remember the one day I had
for breakfast a sandwich like this: Cheese, chorizo on top with a fried egg
on top of the chorizo, covered by some more cheese melting down.
It looked delicious! But it was sooooo much fat that it got me sick,
my digestive sensitive is quite sensitive to fat, and for example I cannot
eat any tipe of hamburguers because they really make me sick.
Some chicken hamburguers are not too toxic. But still.
Anyway that day, I was full for the whole day, I Was feeling sick,
nauseous, burpy, with indigestion. I know this sounds like I was sick,
and NO I don’t have gallbladder stones. Actually my gallbladder looks
beautifully clean. IT’s just that my body cannot tolerate eating too much fat
– I think it’s because most of my life I’ve eaten healthy fresh veggies & fruits-
Ok, getting back to my point now, as you can naturally guess
more carbs, more steak, more chocolate indulgence and kiwi
goodies. I started to gain weight and my jeans shrinked! LOL
The one night I was sitting in bed with my partner next
to me while watching a movie and I started getting some
It was hard to fight the urge to get up and go to the kitchen.
At one point I looked over to him and said:
“I am going to make something to eat”.
He is a VERY GOOD accountability partner and quickly
asked me why. After telling him that I was hungry he
mentioned a single sentence that feels like it has changed
me forever. He said:
“Hunger is simply an indication that you are
achieving your goal so being hungry is good sign!’
WOW, I am achieving my goal and my body is telling me,
my body is congratulating me for getting closer to my goal!
ow awesome is that! So far from being starving, my body
is simply telling me that it is changing and it is happy :)!.
Now I have a new neurological response to feeling hungry
while dieting and this is actually associated with a feeling of
ACHIEVEMENT which is greatly powerful in achieving your goals!.
2) What emotions do you associate with the following?
- Giving ( Do not give so much of yourself that you do not take the time to enjoy receiving).
- Drugs and alcohol
You are always creating associations in your mind. When a
particular song comes on the radio it will take you back to that
amazing date you had, or that terrible place you use to work at.
Your brain is creating these neurological links ALL THE TIME.
These strong feelings can be linked to what is happening around you
at that moment.
For example, Imagine that one day when you were a child and
you were sick, you mum made you eat something which main
ingredient is cabbage and you did not feel like eating. But you
know, you have to eat to recover the energy you lose while your
body is trying to battle the disease. So you eat, but YOU HAD
to eat it. All of a sudden, you wind up vomiting.
You associate “cabbage” with feeling sick and vomiting,
the years pass, you have probably forgotten about that event
but somewhere in your subconscious mind it has been SAVED
and whenever you see cabbage , you don’t know why, but
you just can’t stand it.
That is a simple example of a negative neuro-association.
Now if you realize that vomiting had nothing to do with the poor
cabbage but with just the the natural process of a disease, and that
it is unreasonable to link cabbage with vomiting because the cabagge
had nothing to do with it. Then your patterns start to change!
Al of a sudden you can start linking cabbage with a new experience,
a delicious plate that gives you energy, new flavours, joy, satisfaction.
Does this sounds familiar to you? or do you know someone
who’s been through something similar?
What happens when you see the blue and red flashing lights in your
review mirror, how do you feel about that??? Have you ever gotten a
speeding ticket? Do you get those emotions when you see those
flashing lights even when you know you have done nothing wrong?
This is another indication of neurological programming.
These associations can totally dis-empower us because we believe
that this feeling of emotion is the reality but in fact it might have
no bearing on our actual reality at all, it was simply an emotional
neurological link that was created due to an experience.
In my next blog post I am going to explain how you can change
these neurological associations. Just like Pavlov’s conditioning
the dogs. Whenever Pavlov rang a bell his dogs associated the
sound with food and Pavlov trained his dogs to make that
association and as Pavlov trained his dogs we can train our
So, your assignment for today is:
- Write down 3 associations that make your life more positive
and 3 associations that are limiting your life
My positive associations
– Cigarettes take my breath away and I hate feeling ill.
– I am smart and have a good memory, that’s how I
became a doctor
– Vegetables & fruits are full of healthy vitamins, minerals,
fiber and make me feel INCREDIBLE.
My negative associations
– eating food makes me feel good.
– I am not good at making jokes or being funny
(I always laugh at my own laughs even before I’ve finish them LOL)
Now that you have read my post, what are some of YOUR
positive and negative associations?
Make sure to read my next blog about how to change
neurological association to improve your life.
Oh by the way, another word for neuro-associations is…
Neuro-Linguistic-Programming (NLP)-I’m sure you’ve heard a lot about this :)!
See you tomorrow!,
Thats right… Are you controlling your life or is your life controlling you?
I’m going to start this post by asking You
WHAT DRIVES YOU?
What is that motivation that steers you to do certain things?
or perhaps that stops you from doing certain things
See, yesterday we spoke about the 4 Crucial Steps to take
back your personal power, and if you haven’t read it or
checked the video yet, then I suggest you stop reading
RIGHT NOW and go ahead watch the video I posted
on facebook >>click here to watch the video<<
Did you watch the video??
The reason why I am emphasizing on you watching the video
is because you need the previous information in order to understand
correctly what I am saying now. I’m not saying you are silly or
something like that but it just goes like this:
Would you understand to multiply, without knowing how to sum??
would you go run a marathon without doing any training?
would you invest any money on the stock market, without
understanding how does the stock market work?
No, because you obviously want to understand how things
work first before making a big decision. Right?
Well, the same principle applies here.
By reading this posts and watching my videos, you are filling
your mind with VALUABLE information. You are INVESTING
in yourself, but you want to do it in the correct way and that is
by starting from… The Beginning 🙂
So once again, here’s my video and post from yesterday
for you to take a look … 🙂
>> Ok Ameli, take me to yesterday’s video and post <<
Alright, let’s carry on … Now that you know what is your
personal power and how you can take it back with 4 crucial steps
let’s go a bit deeper…
THE FORCES BEHIND TAKING ACTION – OR NOT –
Let’s face it, there is a lot of people in the world that wants to be successful
(whatever success means to you) people who wants to make a lot of money,
or make money online, people who wants to get that promotion or, ask that
special person to go out on a date, or maybe just go on a diet to lose some kilos.
Now that You know what it needs to be done in order to achieve your goals,
it seems easy, right? I mean it’s all about 1. knowing what you want and having
a clear vision of your outcome, 2. Taking the necessary Action towards achieving
your outcome, 3. Paying attention to your actions so you know if what you are
doing is taking you closer or further from your goal and 4. Being Flexible enough
to modify and improve those actions so ultimately you get closer and closer to
achieving your outcome!.
I mean IT IS SIMPLE:
Know what you want, take action, know what is working out and
keep changing until you have achieve the results you want.
Simple, Simple, simple!
But then if it is so simple why is it that a lot of people just can’t follow
through and stick to their goals? What is preventing them from taking action??
WHAT IS IT??
The answer is: FEAR, fear of failure, fear to being rejected,
fear of “being different”, fear of getting out of the norm,
or even fear of SUCCESS…
To make it clearer,
Our decisions and the way we do things are driven by:
These are the two controlling forces that are preventing you from
taking action. And you must have this clear in your mind:
EVERYTHING we do in life is based on our need to avoid pain or gain pleasure.
- Let’s say that Jen is a very busy woman, she knows she’s been out
of touch with her family and friends for a while. She knows that a simple
call will solve it. But, one thing leads to the other and she gets caught up
with work, emails, telephone calls, the gym, work, etc etc…
She gets CAUGHT UP.
- Jon, he is a guy who is overwheight, he knows he has to go on a diet
and eat healthier. He loves chocolate, big cheesy hamburgers and coke.
That’s his deal, he’s got no time to cook, so McDonalds, BK, Pizza Hut,
KFC –you name it– will work out.
He know he has to eat healthier, and it would be easier if he organizes
some healthy food and drinks some water instead of soda but then again
there’s too much work, staying late at the office, answering
emails, phonecalls, getting stuck in traffic and.. Jon gets CAUGHT UP.
And my final example,
- Have you ever left something up until the very end or somehow have you
found ways to push away whatever you know you HAVE TO do immediately,
but then you manage ways to distract with other things?
Yes, I am talking about PROCRASTINATION.But then again you just push things for so long that you get to a point
where you say “What the heck??”!”I better get this sh* done before
they get worse! And in a blink of an eye you do whatever it is
necessary (TAKE ACTION) to get things DONE.
This is procrastination reversing itself.
I mean, have you ever been there??
Now, can you relate to any of these examples in any-way?
Or do you know someone that you can relate to?
Yes? No? Just be honest with yourself.
In fact, I’ll be honest with you: I have, a lot of times.
Do you see what do the people in these examples have in common?
YES, They get CAUGHT UP.
They allow circumstances to drive and manage their lives
instead of them managing their own life by controlling how
they respond to circumstances around them. They have lost
their personal power and they NEED to take it back!
So WHY do we procrastinate?
Simple, because we have the wrong impression and/or
perspective, and we think that by not taking action we
will experience less pain than by taking action.
We have the wrong idea in our minds!
Subconsciously what you are really thinking is that the
idea of taking action now is going to be more painful
than actually getting things done and dusted.
Have you EVER feel like that??
Just think about it!
And WHY does this happen?? Because you haven’t learn
to control these two forces: Your motivating forces of pain and pleasure.
Don’t get me wrong, it is in our human nature, it’s part of our
survival mechanism to avoid pain. And your brain is just going
to fight like crazy to prevent you from doing something that is
going to lead you to pain. BUT (yes, there’s always a but) it
is here when you need to shift your perception.
This is when you need to PAY ATTENTION to WHAT YOU
LINK the ideas of PAIN AND PLEASURE to.
Now you have clear that it is part of our nature to do things
that cause us less pain and more pleasure. But then if there
are 2 different circumstances that are going to cause pain and
you have to choose one, naturally, you are going to go for the
one that is less painful. Are you?
THE NEED TO AVOID PAIN is a GREATER MOTIVATOR
THAN the DESIRE to GAIN PLEASURE.
Now that you know about these 2 principles of PAIN & PLEASURE
You need to create self-awareness and CONTROL what
you link these 2 principles to.
CHANGE what you link pain and what you link pleasure to.
Let me give you a simple example:
- It’s that time of the year when you need to file your taxes,
You have known for a whole year that the time will come
again and you knew that if you had things ready it would
be easier to file your taxes. But you didn’t, you got caught up
with other stuff in your life like…
“Oh m I’m too tired now, I’ll do it tomorrow, I still have some time anyway” or,
“Ugh, I don’t like doing that stuff…. I’ll do it some time” bla bla blaAt the end of the day, the time has passed and have you started
receiving notifications that if you do not file your taxes
within the next week you’ll be in deep deep trouble, you’ll
have to pay some fines, and things will just get worse…It is at this point when you decide to TAKE ACTION & GET THINGS DONE
But, it could have been WAY easier!
Do you see what happened here?
You though that getting things done, actually filling a simple
form online was “painful”, you thought in the “present” moment,
with short term results. But eventually, procrastinating
about it and “leaving things for later” had even worse
consequences that caused you a lot more “PAIN” and it
was only then when you decided to get things done.
BUT, what if you have thought the other way around?
Like, “Ok yes, I need to file my taxes, I’ll fill out the form
quickly, It is all clear and understandable anyway so then I’ll
have free time to do the things I really enjoy, doing things NOW
is going to save me from worries, from having to pay fines and
going through unnecesary stress”.
- If you are going through some financial struggle, things
seem to work out for a while, everything is going great!
But then all of a sudden, something happens and you start
sabotaging yourself, just when you were having some momentum.
WHY did this happen?
Because somewhere in your mind, you have the wrong idea
the money is bad, or as the media wants to make us think:
rich people takes advantage of poor people, and you are a lovely
person, you don’t want to take advantage of anyone,
You just want to help, inspire and serve other people or,
rich people doesn’t have time to be with their family so you just
decide to be poor to be with your family because you love them
and you care about them.
First of, ok the main reason why you are self-sabotaging yourself
is because you Love your family and you want to protect them,
you want to spend time with them. And that is beautiful!
But then again, do you see how you are causing more pain to
yourself and your family by not taking action? By stopping you
from succeeding and by denying your family and the people
you love the right to live the life all of you deserve?
Do you see how painful it is not having enough money to buy
some food for your family? Having to work endless hours at
minimum wage only for survival? Limiting yourself and your
family by making them go through more pain? A pain that they
DO NOT deserve at all…. When instead, if you could make
more money, like running your own online business and doing
whatever it takes to take action, you’d have the power to change
You’d be providing them the joy to eat healthier, to spend more
family time together. Because if you decide to take action
and for example, you decide to build your own online business,
your legacy, not only you will have the money to take them on
holidays and save for your children’s health or for university,
but you will also have the time-freedom to BE WITH THEM
AT ALL TIMES, to make them happy, to live that life of
fulfillment that YOU and your family deserve..
Did you see what happened here? You CHANGED the FOCUS
to a POSITIVE OUTCOME, to Gaining more PLEASURE by
avoiding the real pain.
So ALL you need to do is SHIFT YOUR PERCEPTION and
direct your FOCUS onto how not doing something is going
to be MORE PAINFUL than having to do so.
In other words: ASSOCIATE not taking action to being more painful
than actually doing it. Don’t wait until you’re out of time and
there’s so much pressure that you have to do something.
Save yourself from painful situations and just take ACTION!
USE this pain and pleasure principles to control situations
around you instead of having them controlling your life.
These principles work in ANY area of your life, whether it is
your personal life or your business life, whether if you are
finding it difficult to keep a relationship or struggling financially.
If you are sabotaging yourself someway or another is because
deep deep deep into you, you are linking pain and pleasure to the wrong ideas.
HOW do you link pain and pleasure to the right ideas??
Well, First of all CONGRATULATIONS, because if you are
asking yourself that , it means that you are now AWARE of it
and that my friend is the biggest and most importnat step.
Now, what is next?
#2 is Asking yourself WHAT is it going to mean TAKING
ACTION? What results are you going to get? What pains
and pleasures are you gonna get from it?
#3 Ask your self what is it going to mean not taking action?
What is it going to be the results in your life? What pains
and pleasures are you going to get? What extra pain are you
going to gain by not taking action?
#4 What would taking action mean to you emotionally, physically,
mentally, Spiritually? What pleasure are you going to gain?How are
you going to feel? Happy, Proud, More Confident, Stronger, Recognized, Admired…
Remember that YOU ARE ALWAYS IN CONTROL.
So decide to take control of your life now, choose what you FOCUS on,
and your behavior will steer in that direction, all by learning to
control pain and pleasure and what you choose to follow through.
What would you lose if you do not take action?
Are you preventing yourself from living an extraordinary life?
Do what is right for your life my friend, You deserve to live an
extraordinary life, you deserve a life of fulfillment so
shift your focus,decide to TAKE ACTION NOW, stop letting your
life controlling you and start controlling your life.
The World is YOUR OYSTER.
See you tomorrow on my next post,
Love & Light,
What do you think it is Your Personal Power?
Your personal Power is your inner ability to
TAKE ACTION and produce results.
It is a power that lives within You and ignites
at certain times of your life, leading you to
achieve the results you want so bad.
See, we all have it within us but sometimes
for X reasons, it slips away of our hands
and we feel vulnerable, powerless.
Can you relate to that?
That overwhelming sensation we feel when
something doesn’t work out the way we expected it,
the way we wanted it to be.
Yes, it can be scary but the truth is, it is only temporary
and you can get back even more powerful from it if
you decide to do So.
Now, let’s get to the juice….
What you need to know if you want to take back your personal power
It all comes down to 2 words:
Success & Failure.
Failure is the result of failing to stay consistent and committed,
failing to follow through our goals and not giving our 110%
Success -on the other hand- is the result keeping consistent and
staying committed, following our goals and breaking through
the limits that used to stop us.
So if you really want to change things in your life,
YOU NEE TO TAKE ACTION. Because it is a combination of
these little successes what create the life you want, a life YOU OWN.
So, HOW do You Start? What Steps do you need to take?
Let’s see… yesterday we spoke about the 3 pillars to living an extraordinary life?
In there I mentioned that one of those those pillars is Your Attention, Your FOCUS
Your Personal power comes from FOCUSING on what you WANT to achieve
and taking DAILY ACTION towards it. And it is a sum of those small steps,
of that “small” progress that adds up and can TOTALLY TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE.
To reinforce it again, ANYTHING YOU FOCUS on
a CONSISTENT BASIS – whatever it is- you will achieve,
So here, I’ll bring back again what type of Language are you using?
Are you using words on your favour or against yourself?
Remember, you have the ULTIMATE POWER to live the life you DESIRE.
Something powerful that I heard was:
“Instead of focusing on how to make a living, focus on how you can DESIGN the life you want.”
It is not about luck, or having the skills or talents.
Because some people can have all of the skills they need to succeed in a certain area
but they do not use them, they don’t work with them. They stay stagnant
Whereas for example, when I started working online, I had no “online skills”
and all I knew about the internet was how to do some research on my
favourite Medical Journals, send emails and facebook. I didn’t even know
what was instagram!
But I WORKED on a CONSISTENT BASIS and I am COMMITTED to LEARN
and develop the skills I Needed. And, as many of other successful online
entrepreneurs I know, I have become my own boss by working online.
It is THE SAME with any other are of your life, I said before….
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve”
See, SUCCESS comes from INSPIRATION or DESPERATION.
If you look at the people who is the most successful in any area you choose,
they were either absolutely INSPIRED to succeed and thrive, to win that nobel prize,
to win the oscar, to win that race, to earn that promotion, to succeed in the
stock market, etc..etc..
Or, they were absolutely DESPERATE to get out of their current situation at that time,
they were sick and tired to struggle financially, sick and tired of living paycheck to paycheck,
or depending upon others, being unable to provide to their families the life they deserve,
or maybe desperate to get out of that awful job with an stupid boss and totally desperate to
work from home, or travel the world…..
Did you notice something??
Either way, INSPIRED or DESPERATE, use both emotions as a MOTIVATION,
as a MOTOR to improve, to be better, to demand more from yourself that anyone
else could ever expect, to THRIVE.
So Get uncomfortable my friend and decide to make a change.
Another tip that can help you as well is studying, self-education,
find a role model, fill your mind with useful knowledge and apply it.
Because, no matter what you have been through, no matter what
has happened to you in the past, no matter the mistakes you made
YOU ARE WORTH WAY MORE THAN YOU THINK and
YOU DESERVE A LIFE OF HAPPINESS AND FULFILLMENT.
Remember, The past does not equal the future.
The 4 Crucial Steps to TAKE BACK YOUR PERSONAL POWER
- KNOW YOUR OUTCOME –
The clearer you are into knowing exactly what you want,
the clearer you get into knowing your outcome.
REMEMBER, CLARITY IS POWER .
You must get focus in what you want and the result you want from it.
Once you have it, imagine it to detail, and FOCUS in it.
Ask yourself, What is the out come I want?
How achieving this outcome is going to influence my life?
What is useful about this? What is the use of this? how can I use it?
- DECIDE TO TAKE ACTION & DO SO:
Everyday, take the steps to move towards the achievement of your
goals. START TODAY, because there is no other day than “Today”
and your present actions. Someday in the future is the result of what you do TODAY,
of what you are doing NOW.
Make a decision that you are willing to push yourself to the next level,
demand more from yourself than anybody would expect.
If for any reason you feel fear, fear to not succeed well, guess what….
- LEARN FROM YOUR ACTIONS,
Pay attention and notice what you learn from the actions you take.
Pay attention to what is working or not. Are those actions
getting you closer or further from your goal?
- BE FLEXIBILE:
So this is what I mean when I say BE FLEXIBLE: if after paying attention
to your actions you see that they are not getting you closer to your goal,
or they are not giving you the results you want, then CHANGE THINGS.
Change your approach, Try something else, think outside the box and IMPROVE :)IF WHAT YOUR ARE DOING THAT NOT WORK, TRY SOMETHING ELSE. CHANGE YOUR APPROACH
Now you’ll probably be wondering…. HOW Often do IT try?
The answer is…. UNTIL YOU SUCCEED.
To make a recap, To take back your PERSONAL POWER
you need to take these 4 crucial steps:
- Know your outcome and have it crystal clear in your mind.
- Take consistent action to achieve your outcome.
- Pay attention to your actions & learn from them and,
- Have the flexibility to change your actions when necessary in order to get you closer to achieving your outcome.
Remember, Your personal power is a result of the little achievements
or successes you have accomplished.
And if you don’t know where to start well…. Find a role model.
Someone who is exactly where you want to be,
learn about them, study their success, pay attention to the good
and the mistakes they made.
Once you start doing that, you will find a patternon their behaviour,
on their mindset. And it is then when you will follow those steps.
You don’t need to reinvent the wheel and go through trial and error.
Save yourself some time and pains, wise people also learn from the experience of others.
Finally, failure can be your best friend. Actually, the greatest successful
people in the world are people who have been through so much success
and failure that it grow them into a whole new level of success.
LEARN from your mistakes, and take that step forward.
Train your mind to look for answers and solutions,
develop healthy habits, feed your mind with powerful knowledge and
finally, TAKE MASSIVE CONSISTENT ACTION.
Finally, before I wrap up this post, I propose an exercise for you
What are those 3 things that you have been pushing away over the last
couple of hours, days, weeks, months… even years.
What are they?
You know what they are….
Perhaps is to start exercising, or finishing that homework
or stop smoking, or cleaning up your room.
No matter what is it, commit to do them and Start gaining
your personal power NOW.
That’s all for today folks, I’ll see you tomorrow and hey!
If you find this blogpost inspiring, if it resonates with you or
with anyone you know then share it with them and let’s spread the
word to help more people take back their personal power, their lives!
Love & Light,
Success result of good judgement, good judgement is result of experience, experience is result of bad judgement. (Anthony Robbins)